My life with the Lord has been so up and down. So off and on. He has always been the faithful One, loving me back into his waiting arms.
Even after turning from a life of sin, I was paralyzed by shame for nearly a decade. It's crazy when I think back on it. A DECADE OF SHAME. Not ten minutes. Not ten days. Not ten months. Ten years. And here's what I know...
I wouldn't trade it for anything. Because those ten years were not in vain. They were not wasted. They were used by God to shape and mold me; to draw me closer to Him than I'd ever been before.
All glory to God I didn't lay down in my shame and accept it.
I battled it every day. I knew it wasn't right. I longed for freedom. A deeply spiritual war was raging in my heart and mind. My rational mind knew the truth of God's love for me, but my wavering heart was susceptible to self-destructive thoughts, lies of Satan, and the haughty looks and words of the self-righteous. That's a big stinkin' mess to clean up! And boy oh boy, did I ever want God to wipe it all clean in the blink of an eye. I knew he could. But did that mean he should?
If God stepped in and cleaned up the mess I made, without me joining him in the hard work of sorting through the clutter, the junk, and finding the treasures, my freedom wouldn't mean half as much to me as it does now. It wouldn't have birthed a passion in me for seeing others set free from whatever has them bound. It wouldn't have given me life lessons to pass on to my children about repentance, forgiveness, humility, praying for enemies, obedience ahead of emotion, spiritual warfare, and so much more.
Without the battle, I would've missed out on the most beautiful thing I've experienced in my life. Loving Jesus and being absolutely free to be loved by him.
Every struggle is an opportunity for growth. Every battle is an opportunity for victory. We may sometimes waver. We may be up today and down tomorrow. But we must never lie down in acceptance or defeat. Let's grab the sword of the Spirit, God's Word. Let's get on our faces and exercise the power of prayer. The faithful One will prove himself faithful every time, loving us back into his waiting arms.
"..the Lord is faithful, and He will strengthen and protect you from the evil one."
2 Thessalonians 3:3
Wednesday, February 17, 2016
Sunday, January 3, 2016
PSA to Moms of Adult Children
This is a PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT to all MOMS.
I'm not sure why no one tells us this, but they don't.
When we have our first baby, we hear things like, "Don't worry, this will only last for the next 18 years" as they laugh about our sleepless nights.
As time goes on we hear, "The terrible 2's are nothing, it should be called the terrible 3's" or "Just wait until they're teenagers!"
And later still, we're promised, "Just a few more years and they'll be out of the house."
Well here's my no-holds-barred, truth-be-told PSA: It NEVER ends. Ever. You will always be a mom.
You will always care, love, worry, pray, want to scream (and sometimes you will), cheer them on, cry (both happy and sad tears), lose sleep, encourage some more, pray some more, throw your hands up in exasperation, do some praise dances for wise decisions, and through it all...you will learn to laugh a lot (at them, at yourself, at life together).
Because adult children are still your children - and you will always be Mom - forever. Amen?
AMEN.
I'm not sure why no one tells us this, but they don't.
When we have our first baby, we hear things like, "Don't worry, this will only last for the next 18 years" as they laugh about our sleepless nights.
As time goes on we hear, "The terrible 2's are nothing, it should be called the terrible 3's" or "Just wait until they're teenagers!"
And later still, we're promised, "Just a few more years and they'll be out of the house."
Well here's my no-holds-barred, truth-be-told PSA: It NEVER ends. Ever. You will always be a mom.
You will always care, love, worry, pray, want to scream (and sometimes you will), cheer them on, cry (both happy and sad tears), lose sleep, encourage some more, pray some more, throw your hands up in exasperation, do some praise dances for wise decisions, and through it all...you will learn to laugh a lot (at them, at yourself, at life together).
Because adult children are still your children - and you will always be Mom - forever. Amen?
AMEN.
Tuesday, December 8, 2015
It is finished
Talk about famous last words.
"It is finished."
Spoken by Jesus on the Cross as he gave up his spirit (John 19:30), and combined with the power of his resurrection, these three words mean absolutely everything to me as a believer.
Sometimes in order to fully grasp what something is, I have to first understand what it is not.
"It is finished" is not "It is almost finished."
"It is finished" is not "My part is finished. Your turn."
"It is finished" is a statement of fact; not a question.
The way I live most days, you'd sure think I believe this is what Jesus said. And I hate that. It's exhausting and wrong. God's word is full of truth reminding me I cannot earn salvation; I cannot win more of God's love through good deeds; I cannot be more forgiven than I already am. Because it is finished.
My salvation was completely earned by Jesus.
I do not set aside the grace of God, for if righteousness could be gained through the law, Christ died for nothing! - Galatians 2:21
God's love for me is extravagant and unchanging throughout all time.
Because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions - it is by grace you have been saved. - Ephesians 2:4-5
My sin is covered by the blood of Jesus and forgiveness has been fully granted.
In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace. - Ephesians 1:7
"It is finished" is my greatest joy. When I believe it as I should, I find rest in Who my God is and fully enjoy him as he desires and deserves.
Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved. - Acts 4:12
Don't miss it....salvation is found in no one else. Not in me or my best efforts. Not in you or your clergy's forgiveness. Not in any social justice cause or religious ritual or even in devoted scripture memorization or powerful prayer time. Salvation is found only in Jesus and his finished work. May we never be guilty of adding a question mark where God has placed a period.
For me, "It is finished" is the most powerful combination of words ever spoken.
I'm recommitting myself to believe it - and to live it each and every day.
"It is finished."
Spoken by Jesus on the Cross as he gave up his spirit (John 19:30), and combined with the power of his resurrection, these three words mean absolutely everything to me as a believer.
Sometimes in order to fully grasp what something is, I have to first understand what it is not.
"It is finished" is not "It is almost finished."
"It is finished" is not "My part is finished. Your turn."
"It is finished" is a statement of fact; not a question.
The way I live most days, you'd sure think I believe this is what Jesus said. And I hate that. It's exhausting and wrong. God's word is full of truth reminding me I cannot earn salvation; I cannot win more of God's love through good deeds; I cannot be more forgiven than I already am. Because it is finished.
My salvation was completely earned by Jesus.
I do not set aside the grace of God, for if righteousness could be gained through the law, Christ died for nothing! - Galatians 2:21
God's love for me is extravagant and unchanging throughout all time.
Because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions - it is by grace you have been saved. - Ephesians 2:4-5
My sin is covered by the blood of Jesus and forgiveness has been fully granted.
In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace. - Ephesians 1:7
"It is finished" is my greatest joy. When I believe it as I should, I find rest in Who my God is and fully enjoy him as he desires and deserves.
Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved. - Acts 4:12
Don't miss it....salvation is found in no one else. Not in me or my best efforts. Not in you or your clergy's forgiveness. Not in any social justice cause or religious ritual or even in devoted scripture memorization or powerful prayer time. Salvation is found only in Jesus and his finished work. May we never be guilty of adding a question mark where God has placed a period.
For me, "It is finished" is the most powerful combination of words ever spoken.
I'm recommitting myself to believe it - and to live it each and every day.
Tuesday, September 1, 2015
Dear Doubting Me,
Just for today, stop trying to prove you are good enough. You know full well God's word proves over and over - you aren't!
"For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me." (Psalm 51)
And you also know the good news - Jesus is good enough. He covers your failings completely.
"...the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin." (1 John 1)
And not only does he cover your sin, he has the supernatural power to redeem and use it to bring glory to his Name.
"And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love Him, to those who are called according to His purpose." (Romans 8)
So just for today, rest in that. Rejoice in that. Live THAT.
Love,
Believing Me
"For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me." (Psalm 51)
And you also know the good news - Jesus is good enough. He covers your failings completely.
"...the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin." (1 John 1)
And not only does he cover your sin, he has the supernatural power to redeem and use it to bring glory to his Name.
"And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love Him, to those who are called according to His purpose." (Romans 8)
So just for today, rest in that. Rejoice in that. Live THAT.
Love,
Believing Me
Scandalous
Something that is so far beyond unfair, it's scandalous ... everything I've ever done ... and I'm forgiven.
Think you don't need a Savior? Take a look at God's commands:
No other gods, only me.
No carved gods of any size, shape, or form of anything whatever, whether of things that fly or walk or swim. Don’t bow down to them and don’t serve them because I am God, your God.
No using the name of God, your God, in curses or silly banter; God won’t put up with the irreverent use of his name.
Observe the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.
Honor your father and mother so that you’ll live a long time in the land that God, your God, is giving you.
No murder.
No adultery.
No stealing.
No lies about your neighbor.
No lusting after your neighbor’s house—or wife (or husband)...Don’t set your heart on anything that is your neighbor’s.
I'm guilty. So, so guilty. When I was younger, I used to look at the list and think, "Well, I haven't done that or that and certainly not THAT. I'm doing pretty good." But pretty good doesn't cut it. Plus, it's a lie. None of us are doing pretty good. God is holy. We cannot enter his presence except through faith in his perfect Son, Jesus. His righteousness covers our unrighteousness.
Jesus paid the steep and painful price for my ugly rebellion against a Father who has done nothing but love me. It's scandalous that I'm forgiven. But I am. And because of that truth...
I am overwhelmed with joy in the LORD my God! For he has dressed me with the clothing of salvation and draped me in a robe of righteousness. I am like a bride with her jewels. - Isaiah 61:10
Oh, how he loves you and me!
Think you don't need a Savior? Take a look at God's commands:
No other gods, only me.
No carved gods of any size, shape, or form of anything whatever, whether of things that fly or walk or swim. Don’t bow down to them and don’t serve them because I am God, your God.
No using the name of God, your God, in curses or silly banter; God won’t put up with the irreverent use of his name.
Observe the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.
Honor your father and mother so that you’ll live a long time in the land that God, your God, is giving you.
No murder.
No adultery.
No stealing.
No lies about your neighbor.
No lusting after your neighbor’s house—or wife (or husband)...Don’t set your heart on anything that is your neighbor’s.
I'm guilty. So, so guilty. When I was younger, I used to look at the list and think, "Well, I haven't done that or that and certainly not THAT. I'm doing pretty good." But pretty good doesn't cut it. Plus, it's a lie. None of us are doing pretty good. God is holy. We cannot enter his presence except through faith in his perfect Son, Jesus. His righteousness covers our unrighteousness.
Jesus paid the steep and painful price for my ugly rebellion against a Father who has done nothing but love me. It's scandalous that I'm forgiven. But I am. And because of that truth...
I am overwhelmed with joy in the LORD my God! For he has dressed me with the clothing of salvation and draped me in a robe of righteousness. I am like a bride with her jewels. - Isaiah 61:10
Oh, how he loves you and me!
Friday, April 18, 2014
This is your story!
Whether I was a so-called "good" person, or a so-called "bad" person before I met Jesus, the fact is I was a lost person in need of rescue. That's what today is all about. Jesus rescuing me and you through his death on the Cross.
For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost. - Luke 19:10
And this life-changing relationship I have with him is not meant to be privately cherished or fearfully hidden from the public. It is meant to be shared!
When I think of sharing my life story with others, my thoughts never, ever go to what I have done to achieve closeness with him. Joining a particular denomination, reciting certain prayers, or performing specific religious duties does not result in a thriving, joyful relationship with my heavenly Father. Intimacy with God is not accomplished by following a list of do’s and don’ts.
Rather, my life story and the intimacy I experience with my Father is all about him…who he is…how he rescued me…listening to him speak directly to me through his word…the peace he gives me in ‘hopeless’ circumstances…the way he never tires of me, but continues to affectionately pursue me…the miraculous transformation only he could ever make in my naturally sinful heart and mind…resulting in an entirely different “me” with entirely different desires and plans than the “me” who first believed in him.
When you are tempted to work for God’s love…remember the Cross.
When you are bogged down by the weight of your sin…remember the Cross.
When you start to act as though your salvation can be earned or paid back…remember the Cross.
The Cross is evidence of God’s all-consuming love for you. It is evidence that Christ fully paid the price for your sin once and for all. There are no remaining interest payments or hidden taxes he left as your responsibility. And the Resurrection is evidence of his mighty power at work within you. On the day of your salvation, forgiveness was not your only immediate blessing. You were blessed with a whole new life - and this life is to be lived by faith and in the power of the Spirit. In fact, if you are not continuously surrendering to the Spirit, you are not living ‘in Christ’ at all.
Do you need to surrender once again today? Bow at the Cross. Rejoice at the empty grave! This is your story - and that story is meant to be shared.
For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost. - Luke 19:10
And this life-changing relationship I have with him is not meant to be privately cherished or fearfully hidden from the public. It is meant to be shared!
When I think of sharing my life story with others, my thoughts never, ever go to what I have done to achieve closeness with him. Joining a particular denomination, reciting certain prayers, or performing specific religious duties does not result in a thriving, joyful relationship with my heavenly Father. Intimacy with God is not accomplished by following a list of do’s and don’ts.
Rather, my life story and the intimacy I experience with my Father is all about him…who he is…how he rescued me…listening to him speak directly to me through his word…the peace he gives me in ‘hopeless’ circumstances…the way he never tires of me, but continues to affectionately pursue me…the miraculous transformation only he could ever make in my naturally sinful heart and mind…resulting in an entirely different “me” with entirely different desires and plans than the “me” who first believed in him.
When you are tempted to work for God’s love…remember the Cross.
When you are bogged down by the weight of your sin…remember the Cross.
When you start to act as though your salvation can be earned or paid back…remember the Cross.
Do you need to surrender once again today? Bow at the Cross. Rejoice at the empty grave! This is your story - and that story is meant to be shared.
Thursday, April 17, 2014
Reversing a guilty verdict!
Wanting to satisfy the crowd, Pilate released Barabbas to them. He had Jesus flogged, and handed him over to be crucified. - Mark 15:15
Now the men who were holding Jesus in custody were mocking him as they beat him. - Luke 22:63
As we read through the sufferings of Christ, we find that he was ‘scourged’ or ‘flogged’ under the orders of Pilate. The practice of flogging was a legal preliminary to every Roman execution because it weakened the victim through shock and blood loss.
When flogged, the Roman soldiers used an instrument that was like a short whip with several leather thongs of varying lengths, in which small iron balls or sharp pieces of sheep bones were tied at intervals. Jesus would have endured these blows while tied to a post in a bent position and unlike Jewish laws that only allowed 39 lashes (13 on the chest and 13 on each shoulder) there were no limits whatsoever to the number of lashes that could be inflicted by the Romans, nor were they restricted to these areas.
Jesus was cruelly tortured and severely mutilated so you and I could be completely healed and beautifully whole. In order to further ridicule Jesus, the soldiers made a “crown of thorns” and placed it on his head.
They stripped him and put a scarlet robe on him, and then twisted together a crown of thorns and set it on his head. They put a staff in his right hand. Then they knelt in front of him and mocked him. “Hail, king of the Jews!” they said. They spit on him, and took the staff and struck him on the head again and again. After they had mocked him, they took off the robe and put his own clothes on him. Then they led him away to crucify him. - Matthew 27:28-31
The NET Bible describes it this way:
The crown of thorns was a crown plaited of some thorny material, intended as a mockery of Jesus’ “kingship.”
Traditionally it has been regarded as an additional instrument of torture, but it seems more probable the purpose of the thorns was not necessarily to inflict more physical suffering but to imitate the spikes of the “radiant corona,” a type of crown portrayed on ruler’s heads on many coins of the period; the spikes on this type of crown represented rays of light pointing outward (the best contemporary illustration is the crown on the head of the Statue of Liberty in New York harbor**).
Can you even imagine? The sinless Son of God was being mocked, beaten, and spit upon by those whom he loved so deeply. And yet the people took perverse pleasure in his pain, oblivious to the fact that he was enduring it all for them. The pain of Jesus served a colossal purpose – he purchased our pardon. (Very Christian-ese of me, huh? Our pardon.) But I adore the meaning. The Holman Illustrated Bible Dictionary defines pardon as: “Authoritative act reversing a sentence given under a guilty verdict.”
We are indeed guilty. And without Christ, a sentence of death is guaranteed. But Jesus, in effect, walked into the courtroom of our sentencing and said, “I’ll pay the price for her freedom! She is guilty, but punish me instead.” And God did.
“He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.” - 1 Peter 2:24
Jesus suffered indescribable pain to rescue you from death. We will experience a certain amount of pain in life. And when we do, it is an opportunity to follow the example of Jesus by bringing glory to the Father. But be on your guard! When we endure hardship, it is a prime opportunity for our adversary, the devil, to creep in and turn us into angry, bitter, unforgiving Spirit-starved people. When we suffer pain, we have a choice to make, just like Jesus did. Will we love others in spite of our suffering, breathing grace into the lives of those we know, and bringing glory to the Father? Or will we turn our thoughts inward, focusing on self (self-pity, self-loathing, self-righteousness, self-destruction, etc.) which brings about the unintended consequence of leading those around us astray?
We can use our power of influence for God's glory. We can love others with the over-the-top grace and forgiveness we have received from our King Jesus. He has reversed our guilty verdict. We are no longer living under a death sentence. Jesus has set us free - and we are FREE indeed!
*Biblical Studies Press. (2006; 2006). The NET Bible First Edition Notes (Jn 19:2). Biblical Studies Press.
**Brand, C., Draper, C., England, A., Bond, S., Clendenen, E. R., Butler, T. C., & Latta, B. (2003).
Now the men who were holding Jesus in custody were mocking him as they beat him. - Luke 22:63
As we read through the sufferings of Christ, we find that he was ‘scourged’ or ‘flogged’ under the orders of Pilate. The practice of flogging was a legal preliminary to every Roman execution because it weakened the victim through shock and blood loss.
When flogged, the Roman soldiers used an instrument that was like a short whip with several leather thongs of varying lengths, in which small iron balls or sharp pieces of sheep bones were tied at intervals. Jesus would have endured these blows while tied to a post in a bent position and unlike Jewish laws that only allowed 39 lashes (13 on the chest and 13 on each shoulder) there were no limits whatsoever to the number of lashes that could be inflicted by the Romans, nor were they restricted to these areas.
Jesus was cruelly tortured and severely mutilated so you and I could be completely healed and beautifully whole. In order to further ridicule Jesus, the soldiers made a “crown of thorns” and placed it on his head.
They stripped him and put a scarlet robe on him, and then twisted together a crown of thorns and set it on his head. They put a staff in his right hand. Then they knelt in front of him and mocked him. “Hail, king of the Jews!” they said. They spit on him, and took the staff and struck him on the head again and again. After they had mocked him, they took off the robe and put his own clothes on him. Then they led him away to crucify him. - Matthew 27:28-31
The NET Bible describes it this way:
Traditionally it has been regarded as an additional instrument of torture, but it seems more probable the purpose of the thorns was not necessarily to inflict more physical suffering but to imitate the spikes of the “radiant corona,” a type of crown portrayed on ruler’s heads on many coins of the period; the spikes on this type of crown represented rays of light pointing outward (the best contemporary illustration is the crown on the head of the Statue of Liberty in New York harbor**).
Can you even imagine? The sinless Son of God was being mocked, beaten, and spit upon by those whom he loved so deeply. And yet the people took perverse pleasure in his pain, oblivious to the fact that he was enduring it all for them. The pain of Jesus served a colossal purpose – he purchased our pardon. (Very Christian-ese of me, huh? Our pardon.) But I adore the meaning. The Holman Illustrated Bible Dictionary defines pardon as: “Authoritative act reversing a sentence given under a guilty verdict.”
We are indeed guilty. And without Christ, a sentence of death is guaranteed. But Jesus, in effect, walked into the courtroom of our sentencing and said, “I’ll pay the price for her freedom! She is guilty, but punish me instead.” And God did.
“He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.” - 1 Peter 2:24
Jesus suffered indescribable pain to rescue you from death. We will experience a certain amount of pain in life. And when we do, it is an opportunity to follow the example of Jesus by bringing glory to the Father. But be on your guard! When we endure hardship, it is a prime opportunity for our adversary, the devil, to creep in and turn us into angry, bitter, unforgiving Spirit-starved people. When we suffer pain, we have a choice to make, just like Jesus did. Will we love others in spite of our suffering, breathing grace into the lives of those we know, and bringing glory to the Father? Or will we turn our thoughts inward, focusing on self (self-pity, self-loathing, self-righteousness, self-destruction, etc.) which brings about the unintended consequence of leading those around us astray?
*Biblical Studies Press. (2006; 2006). The NET Bible First Edition Notes (Jn 19:2). Biblical Studies Press.
**Brand, C., Draper, C., England, A., Bond, S., Clendenen, E. R., Butler, T. C., & Latta, B. (2003).
Monday, April 14, 2014
The Cost of being a Christian
The following is a very close paraphrase from J.C. Ryle's Holiness outlining the 4 costs of being a Christian. I wanted to be able to refer back to this and take it to heart, so I personalized it with "I" throughout instead of "he" as was originally written.
1. It will cost me my self-righteousness.
I must cast away all pride and high thoughts, and conceit of my own goodness. I must be content to go to heaven as a poor sinner saved only by free grace, and owing all to the merit and righteousness of another. I must be willing to give up all trust in my own morality, respectability, praying, Bible-reading, Church-going, and sacrament-receiving, and trust in nothing but Jesus Christ. To be a true Christian it will cost my self-righteousness.
2. It will cost me my sins.
I must be willing to give up every habit and practice which is wrong in God’s sight. I must set his face against it, quarrel with it, break off from it, fight with it, crucify it, and labor to keep it under, whatever the world around me may say or think. I must do this honestly and fairly. There must be no separate truce with any special sin which I love. I must count all sins as deadly enemies, and hate every false way. Whether little or great, whether open or secret, all my sins must be thoroughly renounced. To be a Christian it will cost me my sins.
3. It will cost me my love of ease.
This also sounds hard. There is nothing I naturally dislike so much as ‘trouble’ about my religion. I hate trouble. I secretly wish I could have a ‘vicarious’ Christianity, and could be good by proxy, and have everything done for me. Anything that requires exertion and labor is entirely against the grain of my heart. But the soul can have ‘no gains without pains.’ To be a Christian it will cost a me my love of ease.
4. It will cost me the favor of the world.
I must be content to be thought ill of by others. I must count it no strange thing to be mocked, ridiculed, slandered, persecuted, and even hated. I must not be surprised to find my opinions and practices in religion despised and held up to scorn. I must submit to be thought by many a fool, an enthusiast, and a fanatic – to have my words perverted and my actions misrepresented. In fact, I must not marvel if some call me mad. I dare say this also sounds hard. I naturally dislike unjust dealing and false charges, and think it very hard to be accused without cause. I should not be flesh and blood if I did not wish to have the good opinion of my neighbors. It is always unpleasant to be spoken against, and forsaken, and lied about, and to stand alone. But there is no help for it. The cup which our Master drank must be drunk by His disciples. I must be ‘despised and rejected of men’ (Isaiah 53:3). To be a Christian it will cost me the favor of the world.
Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it. For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul? {Matthew 16}
1. It will cost me my self-righteousness.
I must cast away all pride and high thoughts, and conceit of my own goodness. I must be content to go to heaven as a poor sinner saved only by free grace, and owing all to the merit and righteousness of another. I must be willing to give up all trust in my own morality, respectability, praying, Bible-reading, Church-going, and sacrament-receiving, and trust in nothing but Jesus Christ. To be a true Christian it will cost my self-righteousness.
2. It will cost me my sins.
I must be willing to give up every habit and practice which is wrong in God’s sight. I must set his face against it, quarrel with it, break off from it, fight with it, crucify it, and labor to keep it under, whatever the world around me may say or think. I must do this honestly and fairly. There must be no separate truce with any special sin which I love. I must count all sins as deadly enemies, and hate every false way. Whether little or great, whether open or secret, all my sins must be thoroughly renounced. To be a Christian it will cost me my sins.
3. It will cost me my love of ease.
This also sounds hard. There is nothing I naturally dislike so much as ‘trouble’ about my religion. I hate trouble. I secretly wish I could have a ‘vicarious’ Christianity, and could be good by proxy, and have everything done for me. Anything that requires exertion and labor is entirely against the grain of my heart. But the soul can have ‘no gains without pains.’ To be a Christian it will cost a me my love of ease.
4. It will cost me the favor of the world.
I must be content to be thought ill of by others. I must count it no strange thing to be mocked, ridiculed, slandered, persecuted, and even hated. I must not be surprised to find my opinions and practices in religion despised and held up to scorn. I must submit to be thought by many a fool, an enthusiast, and a fanatic – to have my words perverted and my actions misrepresented. In fact, I must not marvel if some call me mad. I dare say this also sounds hard. I naturally dislike unjust dealing and false charges, and think it very hard to be accused without cause. I should not be flesh and blood if I did not wish to have the good opinion of my neighbors. It is always unpleasant to be spoken against, and forsaken, and lied about, and to stand alone. But there is no help for it. The cup which our Master drank must be drunk by His disciples. I must be ‘despised and rejected of men’ (Isaiah 53:3). To be a Christian it will cost me the favor of the world.
Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it. For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul? {Matthew 16}
Friday, March 21, 2014
What do I do now?
God has me in a season of rest. But it hasn't been easy. More often than I'd like to admit, I've felt more restless than restful. Most days there is a pleading question on my lips and in my heart, "Hello, God, did you forget I exist?" Over the past decade, I went from a woman who got up every day and faithfully put on my garment of shame and regret, to a woman scandalously set free by the love of my amazing Savior, to a woman who had the immense joy and privilege of serving alongside a team of sisters in Christ in ministry for 5 years, to a woman who ... what is it I do now?
And that's the crux of the matter. What do I "do" now? In a season of rest, one should be happy to rest, right? Yet in a culture of "do this" and "do that" and "do more" and always "do, do, do SOMETHING," we feel insignificant, unimportant, overlooked, and even useless unless we are doing something. Oh, and of course that "something" must be significant in our own estimation or we still feel as though we're failing God, or others, or ourselves, or all of the above.
In our world, we long to be included, important, and intimately cared for by someone who truly loves us. No one wants to be ignored, insignificant...put out to pasture.
In God's world, we are included, important, and intimately cared for by Someone who truly loves us. We are never ignored, insignificant, and when we are put out to pasture, it's a good thing not a bad thing! It's a place of rest. Not a place of abandonment.
I'm still learning this. I'm talking to me! And maybe, just maybe, God is talking to you today as well.
God is quite content to put us in seasons where there appears to be no forward movement, where life comes to a screeching halt. It's here where we learn that we're not what we do; we're simply someone he enjoys. - Susie Larson
The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.
He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
he refreshes my soul.
Father, teach me to thoroughly enjoy you; as much as you thoroughly enjoy me.
And that's the crux of the matter. What do I "do" now? In a season of rest, one should be happy to rest, right? Yet in a culture of "do this" and "do that" and "do more" and always "do, do, do SOMETHING," we feel insignificant, unimportant, overlooked, and even useless unless we are doing something. Oh, and of course that "something" must be significant in our own estimation or we still feel as though we're failing God, or others, or ourselves, or all of the above.
In our world, we long to be included, important, and intimately cared for by someone who truly loves us. No one wants to be ignored, insignificant...put out to pasture.
In God's world, we are included, important, and intimately cared for by Someone who truly loves us. We are never ignored, insignificant, and when we are put out to pasture, it's a good thing not a bad thing! It's a place of rest. Not a place of abandonment.
I'm still learning this. I'm talking to me! And maybe, just maybe, God is talking to you today as well.
God is quite content to put us in seasons where there appears to be no forward movement, where life comes to a screeching halt. It's here where we learn that we're not what we do; we're simply someone he enjoys. - Susie Larson
The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.
He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
he refreshes my soul.
Father, teach me to thoroughly enjoy you; as much as you thoroughly enjoy me.
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
See that mess? Let it go.
You know that gut-wrenching feeling when someone hurts you, does something seriously wrong, doesn't seem to care, maybe even seems prideful about it, moves happily along, and leaves you with a gaping heart wound?
It's a bad feeling no matter what, but it's amplified many times over when inflicted by a fellow believer, by someone you thought you could trust, by someone who knows better. You're left wondering, "How could this possibly happen in the family of God?" It's the kind of overwhelming pain that causes you to feel physically ill at times. And to top it off, that's not the worst part.
The worst part is the sin it spawns in your own heart and mind.
Yep. That's right. What started off as someone else's sin, has now begun its destructive work in your life. Like a cancer that silently spreads, the signs and symptoms progressively manifest until it's obvious something is very, very wrong in you.
And just like we all hate cancer, I venture to guess we all hate the effect of someone else's sin in our heart. I mean, really. You were going along your merry way, and BOOM! someone up and disrupts your life with their yucky junk. And once the damage is done, it can take several weeks (or months! or years!) to work through what happened. You see, it isn't enough to simply know you have a heart problem. You can know all day long your heart has developed some serious life-altering problems, but knowledge alone is not an automatic fix to becoming healthy and whole.
The sad reality of unresolved conflict is that it typically leads to more sin than was originally present. Some very ugly feelings and unwelcome questions arise as a result of being wronged; especially when the wrong is not righted through biblical peacemaking.
Feelings like:
Anger - a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong
Resentment - a feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury
Bitterness - anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly; resentment
Unforgiveness - not disposed to forgive or show mercy; unrelenting
Pride - a feeling that you are more important or better than other people
Those are strong words with strong meanings. Did you catch some of them? Belligerence. Persistent ill will. Unrelenting. Better than. Yeah, that's ugly, alright. And the irony is, you may have seen these sinful attitudes in the person who wronged you - yet now those same feelings have taken root in you - perhaps exacerbated by their unwillingness to be at peace with you. It's a vicious cycle the enemy loves and surely makes the Savior weep.
And questions like:
What did I do to deserve this animosity, opposition, betrayal?
How on earth is God not dealing with the wrong things he/she did?
Why does he/she get to go on as if nothing happened, with no accountability, well-respected by others, and serving God to boot?
When will I be able to move past these yucky feelings?
I'm sure some of you could add your own feelings and questions to the list, couldn't you? But that's the bad news. The good news is this: we don't have to remain stuck with these feelings and questions.
We have a God who redeems and restores. And while that broken relationship may never be redeemed or restored, God can do miraculous things inside a person with a willing mind and a pliable heart.
Of all the things God has taught me in life, one of the hardest and most repeated lessons over the past 10 years has been: let it go.
I'm tellin' ya, I've had to leave more things unresolved than I care to remember. My typical response? Say what? WHY? HOW? Ummm...NO. There must be something I can do. Your word says so, God. This isn't right!
While it's true that God's word does guide us in how to resolve conflict within the body of Christ, I've learned through a great deal of pain, heartache, and experience that it doesn't always turn out rosy. Just as it takes two to tango, it takes two to make peace. So as sad as it is to leave things messy, sometimes that is exactly what God asks us to do. No amount of anger or pain (even justified anger or pain) is worth giving up what I have with Jesus. I've gotta let go of the darkness to walk in the Light.
Does this answer all the questions I have? Not even close. I am a work in progress and becoming like Christ is a process. So I will continue to "work out my salvation with fear and trembling" {Phil. 2}; I will think on what is true, pure, and right {Phil. 4}; and I will trust God to do what he does best - change hearts and lives - the greatest miracle of all {2 Cor. 5:17}. I'd love to hear how God has, or is, helping you through your pain. We can always learn from and love one another!
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. {Ephesians 4:32}
It's a bad feeling no matter what, but it's amplified many times over when inflicted by a fellow believer, by someone you thought you could trust, by someone who knows better. You're left wondering, "How could this possibly happen in the family of God?" It's the kind of overwhelming pain that causes you to feel physically ill at times. And to top it off, that's not the worst part.
The worst part is the sin it spawns in your own heart and mind.
Yep. That's right. What started off as someone else's sin, has now begun its destructive work in your life. Like a cancer that silently spreads, the signs and symptoms progressively manifest until it's obvious something is very, very wrong in you.
And just like we all hate cancer, I venture to guess we all hate the effect of someone else's sin in our heart. I mean, really. You were going along your merry way, and BOOM! someone up and disrupts your life with their yucky junk. And once the damage is done, it can take several weeks (or months! or years!) to work through what happened. You see, it isn't enough to simply know you have a heart problem. You can know all day long your heart has developed some serious life-altering problems, but knowledge alone is not an automatic fix to becoming healthy and whole.
The sad reality of unresolved conflict is that it typically leads to more sin than was originally present. Some very ugly feelings and unwelcome questions arise as a result of being wronged; especially when the wrong is not righted through biblical peacemaking.
Feelings like:
Anger - a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong
Resentment - a feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury
Bitterness - anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly; resentment
Unforgiveness - not disposed to forgive or show mercy; unrelenting
Pride - a feeling that you are more important or better than other people
Those are strong words with strong meanings. Did you catch some of them? Belligerence. Persistent ill will. Unrelenting. Better than. Yeah, that's ugly, alright. And the irony is, you may have seen these sinful attitudes in the person who wronged you - yet now those same feelings have taken root in you - perhaps exacerbated by their unwillingness to be at peace with you. It's a vicious cycle the enemy loves and surely makes the Savior weep.
And questions like:
What did I do to deserve this animosity, opposition, betrayal?
How on earth is God not dealing with the wrong things he/she did?
Why does he/she get to go on as if nothing happened, with no accountability, well-respected by others, and serving God to boot?
When will I be able to move past these yucky feelings?
I'm sure some of you could add your own feelings and questions to the list, couldn't you? But that's the bad news. The good news is this: we don't have to remain stuck with these feelings and questions.
We have a God who redeems and restores. And while that broken relationship may never be redeemed or restored, God can do miraculous things inside a person with a willing mind and a pliable heart.
Of all the things God has taught me in life, one of the hardest and most repeated lessons over the past 10 years has been: let it go.
I'm tellin' ya, I've had to leave more things unresolved than I care to remember. My typical response? Say what? WHY? HOW? Ummm...NO. There must be something I can do. Your word says so, God. This isn't right!
While it's true that God's word does guide us in how to resolve conflict within the body of Christ, I've learned through a great deal of pain, heartache, and experience that it doesn't always turn out rosy. Just as it takes two to tango, it takes two to make peace. So as sad as it is to leave things messy, sometimes that is exactly what God asks us to do. No amount of anger or pain (even justified anger or pain) is worth giving up what I have with Jesus. I've gotta let go of the darkness to walk in the Light.
Does this answer all the questions I have? Not even close. I am a work in progress and becoming like Christ is a process. So I will continue to "work out my salvation with fear and trembling" {Phil. 2}; I will think on what is true, pure, and right {Phil. 4}; and I will trust God to do what he does best - change hearts and lives - the greatest miracle of all {2 Cor. 5:17}. I'd love to hear how God has, or is, helping you through your pain. We can always learn from and love one another!
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. {Ephesians 4:32}
Thursday, December 12, 2013
Emmanuel - breaking the silence
Between the closing words Malachi in the Old Testament: “See, I will send the prophet Elijah to you before that great and dreadful day of the LORD comes…”
And the opening words of Matthew in the New Testament: “This is the genealogy of Jesus the Messiah the son of David, the son of Abraham…”
…there are 400 years of silence when God ceases communication with his people, and then – Emmanuel; God with us.
But 400 years is a long, long time. Fear, uncertainty and hopelessness must have gripped the hearts of God’s people throughout that time. A spiritual drought set in.
There are times in my life when I’ve experienced a season of silence or spiritual drought. And as much as I longed to sense God’s presence with me, I felt nothing – well, nothing except a big dose of frustration, fear, and uncertainty. But it was during those times that I learned the true meaning of faith. Trusting what I cannot see or feel. I learned through these lonely times that God’s presence is not dependent on whether or not I feel him with me. He is with me because he says he is with me – period.
The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. {Deut. 31:8}
As we go through the Christmas season, I am determined to exercise my faith. Exercise means "the act of bringing into play or realizing in action." As I give my attention to Emmanuel, I will bring my faith into play by intentionally seeing and hearing others who are struggling through a season of silence. Who can I help? To whom can I offer the hope I have found in Jesus? An act of kindness has the power to break the silence in someone’s life.
Lord, let my life speak volumes to someone who needs to encounter you today – Emmanuel.
And the opening words of Matthew in the New Testament: “This is the genealogy of Jesus the Messiah the son of David, the son of Abraham…”
…there are 400 years of silence when God ceases communication with his people, and then – Emmanuel; God with us.
But 400 years is a long, long time. Fear, uncertainty and hopelessness must have gripped the hearts of God’s people throughout that time. A spiritual drought set in.
There are times in my life when I’ve experienced a season of silence or spiritual drought. And as much as I longed to sense God’s presence with me, I felt nothing – well, nothing except a big dose of frustration, fear, and uncertainty. But it was during those times that I learned the true meaning of faith. Trusting what I cannot see or feel. I learned through these lonely times that God’s presence is not dependent on whether or not I feel him with me. He is with me because he says he is with me – period.
The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. {Deut. 31:8}
As we go through the Christmas season, I am determined to exercise my faith. Exercise means "the act of bringing into play or realizing in action." As I give my attention to Emmanuel, I will bring my faith into play by intentionally seeing and hearing others who are struggling through a season of silence. Who can I help? To whom can I offer the hope I have found in Jesus? An act of kindness has the power to break the silence in someone’s life.
Lord, let my life speak volumes to someone who needs to encounter you today – Emmanuel.
Tuesday, December 3, 2013
I am not the Christ
Did you know you aren't God?
"Of course," you say!
But in the day to day, moment by moment happenings of life, don't we sometimes act like (or like to believe) we are in total control? Being in control of people and circumstances offers a sense of security; a reassurance that we won't be taken by surprise and experience something unpleasant. Being in control means if our loved ones follow our wise counsel, they too will be safe and secure. Well, try telling that to John the Baptist whose life was cut short when his head was cut off because of his faith in Jesus.
"Now this was John's testimony ... He did not fail to confess, but confessed freely, 'I am not the Christ.'" {John 1:19-20}
John knew he couldn't save a single person, and his driving passion in life wasn't to be in control of people or circumstances, but to point people directly to the One who could save them - Jesus.
When John encountered Emmanuel, he boldly proclaimed him to be the Son of God "who takes away the sin of the world!" (vs 29} He didn't seek comfort as a priority; he didn't hide in his own little corner of the world and keep the marvelous truth of salvation to himself and his own family; he didn't take credit for transforming lives. He simply and directly pointed broken people to the One who could heal them in the most profound and permanent way - by taking away their sin and offering them eternal life.
John knew he was not the Christ. And he knew who the Christ was. If John had been seeking to control his life and remain safe, he would have missed meeting Jesus altogether. He would have missed the opportunity to announce him as the Son of God to a massive crowd, many of whom believed in Jesus and were baptized as a result. So sure, he could have been safe ... safe and ineffective.
I'll admit sometimes I try to be God in my own little corner of the world - then the words of John remind me, "I am not the Christ." But praise God I know him and I can freely testify of his salvation and truth and let him take care of the outcome. The last thing I want is to be safe and ineffective. What a tragedy! God is in control. I'm not. And that is truly a place of rest no matter the circumstances.
So I will gladly and freely testify, "I am not the Christ. But I know him, and I trust him."
He is Emmanuel. God with us.
"Of course," you say!
But in the day to day, moment by moment happenings of life, don't we sometimes act like (or like to believe) we are in total control? Being in control of people and circumstances offers a sense of security; a reassurance that we won't be taken by surprise and experience something unpleasant. Being in control means if our loved ones follow our wise counsel, they too will be safe and secure. Well, try telling that to John the Baptist whose life was cut short when his head was cut off because of his faith in Jesus.
"Now this was John's testimony ... He did not fail to confess, but confessed freely, 'I am not the Christ.'" {John 1:19-20}
John knew he couldn't save a single person, and his driving passion in life wasn't to be in control of people or circumstances, but to point people directly to the One who could save them - Jesus.
John knew he was not the Christ. And he knew who the Christ was. If John had been seeking to control his life and remain safe, he would have missed meeting Jesus altogether. He would have missed the opportunity to announce him as the Son of God to a massive crowd, many of whom believed in Jesus and were baptized as a result. So sure, he could have been safe ... safe and ineffective.
I'll admit sometimes I try to be God in my own little corner of the world - then the words of John remind me, "I am not the Christ." But praise God I know him and I can freely testify of his salvation and truth and let him take care of the outcome. The last thing I want is to be safe and ineffective. What a tragedy! God is in control. I'm not. And that is truly a place of rest no matter the circumstances.
So I will gladly and freely testify, "I am not the Christ. But I know him, and I trust him."
He is Emmanuel. God with us.
Tuesday, November 26, 2013
Sowing seeds of faith
The following is from a beautiful young woman who is following hard after the Lord. At just 19 years old, she is sowing seeds of faith and will reap a harvest for God's kingdom. Keep on walking in step with the Spirit, Kjerstine!
A few days ago, I was feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Then I stumbled upon Psalm 127:1-2, “Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the guards stand watch in vain. In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat — for he grants sleep to those he loves.”
I realized I was trying to do things all on my own, and it was getting me nowhere. Good grades and some money, but exhausted, depressed, and nowhere good. It was like God picked me up and rattled me around saying "Go to sleep! Let me figure out your work and school and finances." So I did, I went to bed. I allowed myself to rest....knowing I was getting nothing done, but always telling myself God was going to figure it all out.
When I got to school the next day, I found out my teacher pushed all our assignments back, giving me a whole extra week on a research paper; and my Chemistry professor assigned nothing for homework, when I normally spend hours on it.
Also, I haven't been able to go to church lately, and haven't been tithing like I should. I was trying to make a small fortune for myself completely on my own. It wasn't working. All I was doing was working long hours, becoming exhausted and always worried about money. But then I tithed – a lot – compared to what I made, because I wanted to make up for some of the times I missed. I told myself that God would figure all my money out. The next time I worked, we had a server call off, and my manager put me in his section, a pretty popular and difficult section for a new server to handle. And then we got very busy. I ended up making more than double what I normally make on a week night. I was so in awe of Him. It's like all He wanted was to take care of me, and for me to finally let Him.
Now I'm not worrying about money; I'm working and letting God do the rest; and giving back what is already His. I've been a Christian basically my whole life and He still flat out BLOWS. MY. MIND.
Our Creator is a mighty God who is never too busy for you and is always interested in being involved with the details of your life. Enjoy Him today!
A few days ago, I was feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Then I stumbled upon Psalm 127:1-2, “Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the guards stand watch in vain. In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat — for he grants sleep to those he loves.”
I realized I was trying to do things all on my own, and it was getting me nowhere. Good grades and some money, but exhausted, depressed, and nowhere good. It was like God picked me up and rattled me around saying "Go to sleep! Let me figure out your work and school and finances." So I did, I went to bed. I allowed myself to rest....knowing I was getting nothing done, but always telling myself God was going to figure it all out.
When I got to school the next day, I found out my teacher pushed all our assignments back, giving me a whole extra week on a research paper; and my Chemistry professor assigned nothing for homework, when I normally spend hours on it.
Also, I haven't been able to go to church lately, and haven't been tithing like I should. I was trying to make a small fortune for myself completely on my own. It wasn't working. All I was doing was working long hours, becoming exhausted and always worried about money. But then I tithed – a lot – compared to what I made, because I wanted to make up for some of the times I missed. I told myself that God would figure all my money out. The next time I worked, we had a server call off, and my manager put me in his section, a pretty popular and difficult section for a new server to handle. And then we got very busy. I ended up making more than double what I normally make on a week night. I was so in awe of Him. It's like all He wanted was to take care of me, and for me to finally let Him.
Now I'm not worrying about money; I'm working and letting God do the rest; and giving back what is already His. I've been a Christian basically my whole life and He still flat out BLOWS. MY. MIND.
Our Creator is a mighty God who is never too busy for you and is always interested in being involved with the details of your life. Enjoy Him today!
Wednesday, October 2, 2013
Who would you side with?
I love a good story, don’t you? I sure hope so because I’m about to share one. It’s a story my mom sent to me quite some time ago as an encouragement and reinforcement of my freedom from shame. I don’t know the source of the story, but it goes like this…
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One night in a church service, a young woman felt the tug of God on her heart. She eagerly responded to God’s call and surrendered to Jesus as her Savior and Lord. The young woman had a very sordid past, involving alcohol, drugs, and prostitution. But the change in her was evident after that night and she became a faithful member of the church.
Eventually, she began to serve in the church by teaching young children, and it was not long before this godly young woman caught the eye and heart of the pastor’s son. Their relationship and love for one another grew and they began to make wedding plans. That’s when the problems began.
You see, about half of the church body did not believe a woman with such a past was worthy of a pastor’s son. The members of the church began to argue and fight among themselves until finally, a meeting was held to settle the dispute. As various people made their arguments against the young couple’s relationship, tensions soared and the meeting was getting completely out of hand. The young woman became increasingly distressed about all the things being brought up about her past. When she could no longer bear the pain, she broke down and began to weep.
At that point, the pastor’s son had heard enough. He stood up and began to speak:
“My fiancée’s past is not what is on trial here. What you are questioning is the ability of the blood of Jesus to wash away sin. Today, you have put the blood of Jesus on trial. So, does it wash away sin, or not?”
Now it was the congregation’s turn to weep as they realized they had been slandering the blood of the Lord Jesus Christ.
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Love is the trademark of a believer. God's word says we are like a noisy gong or a clanging symbol without it (1 Cor. 13). Without love for others, our hearts quickly grow cold and our faith is useless. We become mechanical in our Christian walk; in which case, it isn’t a Christ-like walk at all.
Think about it this way. Have you ever been awakened late at night or early in the morning by a neighbor’s car alarm or continual honking horn? And were your thoughts something like, “BE QUIET! STOP ALREADY!”? Similarly, as we go through the motions of being good and doing good apart from a thriving relationship with Christ, we come across just like that loud, annoying car alarm that no one wants to hear or be around. Faith without love is a major turn-off.
May we never be accused of putting the blood of Jesus on trial. May we never be found siding with those who look down on a fellow believer. Satan is the accuser of the brethren. May we always be found siding with the blood of Jesus. He loves with a wild kind of love - a magnetic kind of love that draws people to himself. Let's love like that. Let's point people to him. When we fail at this kind of love and repent, his blood washes us clean. When we succeed at this kind of love, it's by the mighty power of his Spirit at work within us. REJOICE!
Make sure you always know whose side you're really on.
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Eventually, she began to serve in the church by teaching young children, and it was not long before this godly young woman caught the eye and heart of the pastor’s son. Their relationship and love for one another grew and they began to make wedding plans. That’s when the problems began.
You see, about half of the church body did not believe a woman with such a past was worthy of a pastor’s son. The members of the church began to argue and fight among themselves until finally, a meeting was held to settle the dispute. As various people made their arguments against the young couple’s relationship, tensions soared and the meeting was getting completely out of hand. The young woman became increasingly distressed about all the things being brought up about her past. When she could no longer bear the pain, she broke down and began to weep.
At that point, the pastor’s son had heard enough. He stood up and began to speak:
“My fiancée’s past is not what is on trial here. What you are questioning is the ability of the blood of Jesus to wash away sin. Today, you have put the blood of Jesus on trial. So, does it wash away sin, or not?”
Now it was the congregation’s turn to weep as they realized they had been slandering the blood of the Lord Jesus Christ.
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Love is the trademark of a believer. God's word says we are like a noisy gong or a clanging symbol without it (1 Cor. 13). Without love for others, our hearts quickly grow cold and our faith is useless. We become mechanical in our Christian walk; in which case, it isn’t a Christ-like walk at all.
Think about it this way. Have you ever been awakened late at night or early in the morning by a neighbor’s car alarm or continual honking horn? And were your thoughts something like, “BE QUIET! STOP ALREADY!”? Similarly, as we go through the motions of being good and doing good apart from a thriving relationship with Christ, we come across just like that loud, annoying car alarm that no one wants to hear or be around. Faith without love is a major turn-off.
May we never be accused of putting the blood of Jesus on trial. May we never be found siding with those who look down on a fellow believer. Satan is the accuser of the brethren. May we always be found siding with the blood of Jesus. He loves with a wild kind of love - a magnetic kind of love that draws people to himself. Let's love like that. Let's point people to him. When we fail at this kind of love and repent, his blood washes us clean. When we succeed at this kind of love, it's by the mighty power of his Spirit at work within us. REJOICE!
Make sure you always know whose side you're really on.
Sunday, September 29, 2013
Blonde moments turned God moments
My daughters and I recently visited my new favorite eatery, McAlister's. It's a new place for us, so ordering took quite a while as we looked over the menu with the help of our super gracious cashier. As it neared time to pay, blonde moment #1 occurred.
I realized my little byTavi pouch that holds my debit card, driver's license, etc. was not in my byTavi purse (yes, I love byTavi). But my point is: no money. I had used my card online earlier and forgot to put the pouch back in. As I fumbled through my purse to make sure, I noticed my checkbook and feebly asked if they take a check. A manager was walking by and said, "No." I sadly looked at the girls and said, "Well, okay..." when the manager said, "It's on us."
Honestly, I was so surprised I got all teary-eyed and almost cried. It was so kind and unexpected and I told them so. What a great God moment! This really is my new favorite restaurant!
As my daughters and I happily feasted on our yummy, free meals, a thought popped into my mind. Cash. I have cash in an envelope in my purse. Blonde moment #2! So as I finished eating, I asked God to use this money as he saw fit.
While waiting in line again to speak with the same cashier and manager, I wondered if I should offer the money to the women who were ordering from our cashier. ... "No, wait." So the ladies finished their order and it was my turn. But our cashier immediately walked away and began talking to a couple at the end of the counter. As I happily waited by her register, I began to hear bits and pieces of their conversation and I realized ... That couple goes to my church. The cashier's friend is in dire financial straits and needs help. Oh Lord, I know it's a small amount of money, but that's who is supposed to have it.
After a brief conversation and with the manager's approval, that is exactly where the money went. And the cashier was now the one crying with joy.
What a great, personal, mighty God we serve. He reaches down and blesses us when we cannot provide for ourselves - through a free meal, yes - but moreover through the death and resurrection of his Son. And then he even provides us with the means and desire to turn around and bless someone else. I pray more than anything for the cashier and her friend - and who knows who else - to see the BIG LOVE God has for them in that little amount of cash. I'm confident my blonde moments were part of God's plan to show Himself all along.
McAlister's is great, but with God is hands down my all-time favorite place to be. There is NONE like him.
I realized my little byTavi pouch that holds my debit card, driver's license, etc. was not in my byTavi purse (yes, I love byTavi). But my point is: no money. I had used my card online earlier and forgot to put the pouch back in. As I fumbled through my purse to make sure, I noticed my checkbook and feebly asked if they take a check. A manager was walking by and said, "No." I sadly looked at the girls and said, "Well, okay..." when the manager said, "It's on us."
Honestly, I was so surprised I got all teary-eyed and almost cried. It was so kind and unexpected and I told them so. What a great God moment! This really is my new favorite restaurant!
While waiting in line again to speak with the same cashier and manager, I wondered if I should offer the money to the women who were ordering from our cashier. ... "No, wait." So the ladies finished their order and it was my turn. But our cashier immediately walked away and began talking to a couple at the end of the counter. As I happily waited by her register, I began to hear bits and pieces of their conversation and I realized ... That couple goes to my church. The cashier's friend is in dire financial straits and needs help. Oh Lord, I know it's a small amount of money, but that's who is supposed to have it.
After a brief conversation and with the manager's approval, that is exactly where the money went. And the cashier was now the one crying with joy.
What a great, personal, mighty God we serve. He reaches down and blesses us when we cannot provide for ourselves - through a free meal, yes - but moreover through the death and resurrection of his Son. And then he even provides us with the means and desire to turn around and bless someone else. I pray more than anything for the cashier and her friend - and who knows who else - to see the BIG LOVE God has for them in that little amount of cash. I'm confident my blonde moments were part of God's plan to show Himself all along.
McAlister's is great, but with God is hands down my all-time favorite place to be. There is NONE like him.
Thursday, September 5, 2013
Something new
I've noticed something about Jesus that overwhelms me, and I do mean overwhelms me.
Every time I go into a spiritual battle to be rid of something that prevents me from walking in his freedom, I come away from the battle with something new. BONUS!
Example #1: I fought hard for nearly a decade to overcome the guilt and shame of my past. And yes, Jesus was there all along feeding me a steady diet of truth. But it was a process of healing; and that process yielded immeasurably greater results and intimacy with my Savior than if I had been instantly set free.
BONUS: My focus during those years was on being rid of my "cloak of shame." It never occurred to me this cloak would be replaced with something new. BUT IT WAS! Jesus took my guilt away and gave me a robe of righteousness. He replaced my shame with dignity and honor.
Example #2: For the past year or so, I've been battling the paralyzing sin of fear. Most notably, a fear of speaking and "putting myself out there," which I know is what God has called me to do for him! (A week ago, I could not have made that declaration to you, out of fear.) This past week, I attended the Christian Communicators Conference in Asheville, NC, and had such an amazing encounter with Jesus that I will never be the same. He defeated my fear in one fell swoop.
BONUS: My focus, once again, was on being rid of my fear. It never occurred to me that my paralyzing fear would be replaced with something new. BUT IT WAS! Jesus defeated my fear and filled me a bold excitement, an overflowing JOY, at the thought of sharing his goodness with others.
Maybe to everyone else this is just common knowledge, but it's thrilling to me. Imagine having something stinky and rotting in your fridge, but you can't figure out the source. You scrub and clean and throw things out until eventually the culprit is revealed. You see the rotten item that is causing the stink, carry it out to the trash, and rid your home of it once and for all. Mission accomplished, right?!
BONUS: You walk back in and are greeted by a breathtaking aroma. It's so refreshing and pleasant; and completely unexpected. Where did THAT come from?
That's what Jesus does in us. While we are merely satisfied to be rid of our trash; Jesus goes above and beyond by replacing our stinky mess with something new, something pure, something beautiful. All glory to him! What a Savior!
I'd love to hear the 'something new' he has given to YOU.
Every time I go into a spiritual battle to be rid of something that prevents me from walking in his freedom, I come away from the battle with something new. BONUS!
Example #1: I fought hard for nearly a decade to overcome the guilt and shame of my past. And yes, Jesus was there all along feeding me a steady diet of truth. But it was a process of healing; and that process yielded immeasurably greater results and intimacy with my Savior than if I had been instantly set free.
BONUS: My focus during those years was on being rid of my "cloak of shame." It never occurred to me this cloak would be replaced with something new. BUT IT WAS! Jesus took my guilt away and gave me a robe of righteousness. He replaced my shame with dignity and honor.
Example #2: For the past year or so, I've been battling the paralyzing sin of fear. Most notably, a fear of speaking and "putting myself out there," which I know is what God has called me to do for him! (A week ago, I could not have made that declaration to you, out of fear.) This past week, I attended the Christian Communicators Conference in Asheville, NC, and had such an amazing encounter with Jesus that I will never be the same. He defeated my fear in one fell swoop.
BONUS: My focus, once again, was on being rid of my fear. It never occurred to me that my paralyzing fear would be replaced with something new. BUT IT WAS! Jesus defeated my fear and filled me a bold excitement, an overflowing JOY, at the thought of sharing his goodness with others.
Maybe to everyone else this is just common knowledge, but it's thrilling to me. Imagine having something stinky and rotting in your fridge, but you can't figure out the source. You scrub and clean and throw things out until eventually the culprit is revealed. You see the rotten item that is causing the stink, carry it out to the trash, and rid your home of it once and for all. Mission accomplished, right?!
BONUS: You walk back in and are greeted by a breathtaking aroma. It's so refreshing and pleasant; and completely unexpected. Where did THAT come from?
That's what Jesus does in us. While we are merely satisfied to be rid of our trash; Jesus goes above and beyond by replacing our stinky mess with something new, something pure, something beautiful. All glory to him! What a Savior!
Sunday, August 18, 2013
Caught in the act
John 8:1-11. You know the story. A woman. Caught in the act of adultery. Forced out into the light of day. Into the light of the Temple of all places! Utter humiliation. Deep shame. Surrounded by highly respected religious leaders in the Jewish community. And Jesus.
“Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?”
He was silent. But their questions would not cease. They wanted to trap him. To catch him doing something contrary to the Law. And boy, did they…
“Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”
Stunned silence.
As sinners saved by grace, this story leaves us shouting for joy or weeping with gratitude - or both - for the amazing love of our Savior. But I don’t believe for a minute those who came spouting accusations departed with softened hearts and a new understanding of grace. After all, it was the Jewish religious leaders who later sought to have Jesus killed; and eventually succeeded. And it was surely encounters like this that persistently fueled their self-righteous indignation and hatred of him. In one fell swoop, Jesus unequivocally placed himself above the Law.
We have the benefit of hindsight, but would we really have reacted so differently to this man Jesus?
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Here in the 21st century, imagine you are caught in the act of murder. Caught in the very act. As a result, you are aggressively hauled into the police station where you are shoved into a chair directly across from the Chief of Police. While sitting there, head hung low, your angry accusers recount the depravity of your sinful act. There is no denying what you’ve done and the crowd takes pleasure in reminding the Chief of the required punishment by law. You deserve death. But something strange happens. As everyone waits with knowing expectation, including you, the Police Chief rises and says, “Let the one who has never despised, hated, or withheld forgiveness take her to the death chamber.”
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Jesus waited until one by one, they all simply ... left.
“Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”
“No one, sir.”
“Then neither do I condemn you. Go now and leave your life of sin.”
Outrageous. So … wrong. Can we really blame the religious leaders for their outrage? The Law – God’s law – was clear. The response of Jesus was truly extreme. Can you imagine the Chief of Police saying, “Well, you know, everyone here has refused to forgive someone; or hated someone at one time or another, and that’s like committing murder in your heart. I’m not going to enforce the punishment required by law on her, but you can enforce it yourself if you are free of sin.” But that’s not all. Imagine the completely innocent Chief of Police then taking your death sentence upon himself. It wouldn’t make sense.
But that’s exactly what Jesus did. He stepped in and took your deserved punishment. He took my deserved punishment. He suffered a cruel, torturous death. The wild and crazy declaration Jesus made to the woman, “Neither do I condemn you,” boils down to one fantastic, overwhelming truth: Jesus LOVES you.
And don't miss this: Jesus didn't stick up for the woman after she cleaned up her act and chose a relationship with him. We don't know if she ever did. Jesus extended grace right when she was caught red-handed in humiliating sin - he didn't even ask if she was sorry. That's the Gospel message! Get to know this God-man Jesus. He isn't religious. He's radical. He's relationship-driven. And he will ASTOUND you!
I like to believe that woman's life was never the same. I like to believe she followed Jesus, wept at his crucifixion and rejoiced at his Resurrection. I like to believe she loved Jesus and loved others - because when she was caught in the act, Jesus didn't condemn her; he loved her.
Loving Jesus and loving others sets you free. That’s what you are, friend. You are free…from sin, from death…to live, to love.
Love is what was missing in the hearts and minds of the religious leaders. The big question is…is it missing in yours? Don't get caught in the act of religious superiority. Do get caught in the act of loving others. Every. single. day.
“Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?”
He was silent. But their questions would not cease. They wanted to trap him. To catch him doing something contrary to the Law. And boy, did they…
“Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”
Stunned silence.
As sinners saved by grace, this story leaves us shouting for joy or weeping with gratitude - or both - for the amazing love of our Savior. But I don’t believe for a minute those who came spouting accusations departed with softened hearts and a new understanding of grace. After all, it was the Jewish religious leaders who later sought to have Jesus killed; and eventually succeeded. And it was surely encounters like this that persistently fueled their self-righteous indignation and hatred of him. In one fell swoop, Jesus unequivocally placed himself above the Law.
We have the benefit of hindsight, but would we really have reacted so differently to this man Jesus?
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Here in the 21st century, imagine you are caught in the act of murder. Caught in the very act. As a result, you are aggressively hauled into the police station where you are shoved into a chair directly across from the Chief of Police. While sitting there, head hung low, your angry accusers recount the depravity of your sinful act. There is no denying what you’ve done and the crowd takes pleasure in reminding the Chief of the required punishment by law. You deserve death. But something strange happens. As everyone waits with knowing expectation, including you, the Police Chief rises and says, “Let the one who has never despised, hated, or withheld forgiveness take her to the death chamber.”
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Jesus waited until one by one, they all simply ... left.
“Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”
“No one, sir.”
“Then neither do I condemn you. Go now and leave your life of sin.”
But that’s exactly what Jesus did. He stepped in and took your deserved punishment. He took my deserved punishment. He suffered a cruel, torturous death. The wild and crazy declaration Jesus made to the woman, “Neither do I condemn you,” boils down to one fantastic, overwhelming truth: Jesus LOVES you.
And don't miss this: Jesus didn't stick up for the woman after she cleaned up her act and chose a relationship with him. We don't know if she ever did. Jesus extended grace right when she was caught red-handed in humiliating sin - he didn't even ask if she was sorry. That's the Gospel message! Get to know this God-man Jesus. He isn't religious. He's radical. He's relationship-driven. And he will ASTOUND you!
I like to believe that woman's life was never the same. I like to believe she followed Jesus, wept at his crucifixion and rejoiced at his Resurrection. I like to believe she loved Jesus and loved others - because when she was caught in the act, Jesus didn't condemn her; he loved her.
Loving Jesus and loving others sets you free. That’s what you are, friend. You are free…from sin, from death…to live, to love.
Love is what was missing in the hearts and minds of the religious leaders. The big question is…is it missing in yours? Don't get caught in the act of religious superiority. Do get caught in the act of loving others. Every. single. day.
Friday, August 9, 2013
More than a wedding day
Who doesn't love a beautiful, romantic wedding? Especially us girls! I, for one, am a complete girly-girl. I love all the foo-foo, frilly, feminine things that make being female such FUN. (A little overkill on the alliteration?) Oh well!
From high tea at the Grand Floridian...
...to princess parties and ballet...
to my fairytale wedding day on a Caribbean island...
I simply adore being a girl. In fact, next to Christmas, my favorite holiday is Valentine's Day; because in my girly ways I love the whole idea of love itself.
But candidly, if I were to hang my hat on this thinking, it would not be healthy at all. You see, when a person is in love with love, they care more about the benefits of the relationship than the person with whom they are in the relationship. Being in love with love doesn't bode well for enduring the difficulties and conflict that are sure to arise. To put it bluntly, a lover of love won't care as much about the person as much as what that person can do for them.
As I was lunching with my friend, Heather, this week (another fun girl thing!), she made a sweet and meaningful analogy about our testimony as followers of Christ. In a nutshell, it's this...
Coming to faith in Christ = wedding day
Ongoing relationship with Christ = marriage relationship
So frequently it seems many Christians associate their testimony with their "wedding day" when they first came to Christ. But in reality, we are to have an ongoing testimony - a marriage relationship with Christ - that will continue to grow and thrive and transform us over time.
Now to be fair, it's absolutely a blast, and even important, to reflect on our "wedding day" testimony when we came to Christ! Just as those of us who are married reflect on our wedding day - sometimes in an effort to rekindle that first love we had for one another. But let's also make sure that we aren't simply in love with love where Christ is concerned. Ask yourself:
Am I in this relationship because of what Jesus can do for me?
Do I really care about what he wants?
When I obey him, do I expect him to do something good for me in return?
When things go poorly, do I turn my back on Jesus?
Am I striving to cultivate a relationship with him; to really know him more?
If our only testimony is to tout how awesome our wedding day was, it's time to get busy building the testimony of our marriage relationship. After all, it's during the day-in and day-out ups and downs; joys and heartaches; victories and failures where true intimacy happens - and the true love story comes to life. Our relationship with Jesus is to be an ongoing testimony of an on-fire love life. And that's what this girly girl finds both irresistibly attractive and delightfully satisfying about life with Jesus. It's so much more than a wedding day...
I am overwhelmed with joy in the LORD my God! For he has dressed me with the clothing of salvation and draped me in a robe of righteousness. I am like a bride with her jewels. {Isaiah 61:10}
From high tea at the Grand Floridian...
...to princess parties and ballet...
to my fairytale wedding day on a Caribbean island...
I simply adore being a girl. In fact, next to Christmas, my favorite holiday is Valentine's Day; because in my girly ways I love the whole idea of love itself.
But candidly, if I were to hang my hat on this thinking, it would not be healthy at all. You see, when a person is in love with love, they care more about the benefits of the relationship than the person with whom they are in the relationship. Being in love with love doesn't bode well for enduring the difficulties and conflict that are sure to arise. To put it bluntly, a lover of love won't care as much about the person as much as what that person can do for them.
As I was lunching with my friend, Heather, this week (another fun girl thing!), she made a sweet and meaningful analogy about our testimony as followers of Christ. In a nutshell, it's this...
Coming to faith in Christ = wedding day
Ongoing relationship with Christ = marriage relationship
So frequently it seems many Christians associate their testimony with their "wedding day" when they first came to Christ. But in reality, we are to have an ongoing testimony - a marriage relationship with Christ - that will continue to grow and thrive and transform us over time.
Now to be fair, it's absolutely a blast, and even important, to reflect on our "wedding day" testimony when we came to Christ! Just as those of us who are married reflect on our wedding day - sometimes in an effort to rekindle that first love we had for one another. But let's also make sure that we aren't simply in love with love where Christ is concerned. Ask yourself:
Am I in this relationship because of what Jesus can do for me?
Do I really care about what he wants?
When I obey him, do I expect him to do something good for me in return?
When things go poorly, do I turn my back on Jesus?
Am I striving to cultivate a relationship with him; to really know him more?
If our only testimony is to tout how awesome our wedding day was, it's time to get busy building the testimony of our marriage relationship. After all, it's during the day-in and day-out ups and downs; joys and heartaches; victories and failures where true intimacy happens - and the true love story comes to life. Our relationship with Jesus is to be an ongoing testimony of an on-fire love life. And that's what this girly girl finds both irresistibly attractive and delightfully satisfying about life with Jesus. It's so much more than a wedding day...
I am overwhelmed with joy in the LORD my God! For he has dressed me with the clothing of salvation and draped me in a robe of righteousness. I am like a bride with her jewels. {Isaiah 61:10}
Wednesday, August 7, 2013
Need a good spanking?
It seems more and more people these days can't handle a little straight talk. Even the subject of "spankings" has become extremely controversial. If you don't like straight talk or a little fire in your conversations, you may want to move on with your day.
If, on the other hand, you don't mind a little in-your-face biblical truth, and perhaps even enjoy it; then read on. After all, Jesus wasn't shy about getting in the faces of the religious leaders in his day. Neither was Paul. Neither were countless others, frankly. And while there are certainly situations that call for some strong hand-holding, encouraging words, and a comforting hug; there are others that call for a little (or big) spanking.
My husband and I will sometimes comment to each other that one of our teenagers needs a really good spanking. It's like they are crying out for it! How so? Well, after they've been told something over and over; and they've even suffered the consequences of their poor choices; they sometimes choose to keep doing the same dumb thing again...and again. Can anyone relate?
I find that we are the same way in our individual relationships with God. He clearly tells us exactly how to treat one another; as well as how not to treat one another: For the whole law can be summed up in this one command: "Love your neighbor as yourself." If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other. - Galatians 5:14-15
Are you listening? We fulfill everything God wants from us if we simply LOVE ONE ANOTHER. Come on now, ya'll. That's what God says to do. No excuses. If you say you are a follower of Jesus, and someone offends you, it's not okay to gossip or hold a grudge or treat them as if they are not worthy of a simple "hello." There are two options:
1. Overlook it! God says that is to your glory. And you'll be acting just like Jesus. Woo-hoooo!!! {Prov. 19:11}
2. If the offense is too serious to overlook, talk TO the person, not ABOUT them. {Matt. 18:15}
3. Yes, I know I said two options. This one isn't optional. Love one another.
And by the way, when you talk TO the person (not ABOUT him or her), make sure you talk to Jesus first. Ask him to guide your every word. I've seen him reconcile relationships beautifully and more honoring than ever when hearts are motivated by seeing him glorified. And I've seen Satan have his destructive way with those who are puffed up by their own perceived goodness and just want to get something off their chest - with no concern for the outcome or God's reputation.
A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends. - Proverbs 16:28
And one more thing. Don't judge your sister in Christ's motives. Don't presume to know why your brother in Christ is doing what he's doing. When you choose to go down this path, you are showing your true colors, not theirs. Most believers we know are truly good-willed people and really do want to honor Jesus with their lives. No one is perfect. We all fail; sometimes BIG. Because we're all a work in progress. That's why we proclaim we need Jesus! That's also why that big fancy word "sanctification" is called a process.
Don't pass judgment in hopes of disguising it as discernment. Discernment breeds wisdom, love, and a desire for unity. Condemnation breeds pride, a critical spirit, and division in the Body of believers. If you find yourself doing that, confess it. Repent and seek forgiveness from God and from those you have involved in your sin. Judging a person's motives is putting yourself above God. It's a dangerous and evil thing to do. ... Yes, evil. ... It is joining forces with Satan himself when we "bite and devour" another believer. Satan, after all, is the accuser of the brethren. We are participating in his plans to destroy God's kingdom work when we taint the reputation of one of God's own children through back-biting and godless chatter.
Now, if you happen to be reading this and you are holding something against a brother or sister in Christ, believe me I know you have good reason. Don't we all? I'm not even kidding. What they did was horrible. They aren't even sorry. You know their heart because look at their actions. You've tried to talk to them and it didn't make a difference.
You know what I say to any and all of that? So many excuses; so little love. God has given you grace upon grace that you don't deserve. At all. Period. That's why it's called grace. We are to love one another. We are to extend God's unbelievable grace to one another. We are to defend and protect our own; flaws and all; not bite and devour one another. We're a family. God says so. Let's act like it!
Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples. - John 13:35
I've been spanked on this issue more than once; and I'm learning to truly embrace a life of loving and extending grace to others - especially my enemies. And while I doubt if I'll be in the clear until Heaven, it sure feels great doing it! I'm okay with the process. God's got me covered. Sometimes I just need a good spanking.
If, on the other hand, you don't mind a little in-your-face biblical truth, and perhaps even enjoy it; then read on. After all, Jesus wasn't shy about getting in the faces of the religious leaders in his day. Neither was Paul. Neither were countless others, frankly. And while there are certainly situations that call for some strong hand-holding, encouraging words, and a comforting hug; there are others that call for a little (or big) spanking.
My husband and I will sometimes comment to each other that one of our teenagers needs a really good spanking. It's like they are crying out for it! How so? Well, after they've been told something over and over; and they've even suffered the consequences of their poor choices; they sometimes choose to keep doing the same dumb thing again...and again. Can anyone relate?
I find that we are the same way in our individual relationships with God. He clearly tells us exactly how to treat one another; as well as how not to treat one another: For the whole law can be summed up in this one command: "Love your neighbor as yourself." If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other. - Galatians 5:14-15
Are you listening? We fulfill everything God wants from us if we simply LOVE ONE ANOTHER. Come on now, ya'll. That's what God says to do. No excuses. If you say you are a follower of Jesus, and someone offends you, it's not okay to gossip or hold a grudge or treat them as if they are not worthy of a simple "hello." There are two options:
1. Overlook it! God says that is to your glory. And you'll be acting just like Jesus. Woo-hoooo!!! {Prov. 19:11}
2. If the offense is too serious to overlook, talk TO the person, not ABOUT them. {Matt. 18:15}
3. Yes, I know I said two options. This one isn't optional. Love one another.
And by the way, when you talk TO the person (not ABOUT him or her), make sure you talk to Jesus first. Ask him to guide your every word. I've seen him reconcile relationships beautifully and more honoring than ever when hearts are motivated by seeing him glorified. And I've seen Satan have his destructive way with those who are puffed up by their own perceived goodness and just want to get something off their chest - with no concern for the outcome or God's reputation.
A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends. - Proverbs 16:28
And one more thing. Don't judge your sister in Christ's motives. Don't presume to know why your brother in Christ is doing what he's doing. When you choose to go down this path, you are showing your true colors, not theirs. Most believers we know are truly good-willed people and really do want to honor Jesus with their lives. No one is perfect. We all fail; sometimes BIG. Because we're all a work in progress. That's why we proclaim we need Jesus! That's also why that big fancy word "sanctification" is called a process.
Don't pass judgment in hopes of disguising it as discernment. Discernment breeds wisdom, love, and a desire for unity. Condemnation breeds pride, a critical spirit, and division in the Body of believers. If you find yourself doing that, confess it. Repent and seek forgiveness from God and from those you have involved in your sin. Judging a person's motives is putting yourself above God. It's a dangerous and evil thing to do. ... Yes, evil. ... It is joining forces with Satan himself when we "bite and devour" another believer. Satan, after all, is the accuser of the brethren. We are participating in his plans to destroy God's kingdom work when we taint the reputation of one of God's own children through back-biting and godless chatter.
Now, if you happen to be reading this and you are holding something against a brother or sister in Christ, believe me I know you have good reason. Don't we all? I'm not even kidding. What they did was horrible. They aren't even sorry. You know their heart because look at their actions. You've tried to talk to them and it didn't make a difference.
You know what I say to any and all of that? So many excuses; so little love. God has given you grace upon grace that you don't deserve. At all. Period. That's why it's called grace. We are to love one another. We are to extend God's unbelievable grace to one another. We are to defend and protect our own; flaws and all; not bite and devour one another. We're a family. God says so. Let's act like it!
Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples. - John 13:35
I've been spanked on this issue more than once; and I'm learning to truly embrace a life of loving and extending grace to others - especially my enemies. And while I doubt if I'll be in the clear until Heaven, it sure feels great doing it! I'm okay with the process. God's got me covered. Sometimes I just need a good spanking.
Sunday, July 28, 2013
I have a life
Once upon a time, a blonde-haired, brown-eyed (bull-headed) boy was born to a blonde-haired, blue-eyed (bull-headed) single mom.
And that little boy, and his little brown-haired, brown-eyed (sweet-mannered) sister - who came 14 months later - changed the life of that sinful young girl.
Well, actually Jesus did that. But he used these precious little ones to do it.
Fast-forward almost two decades and I haven't been a single mom for half that time; nor am I (nearly as) bull-headed. My "precious little ones" are no longer little at all; but their temperaments from birth are still firmly in tact. I'll never know what kind of mom I would've been had I been married to their dad from the time they were born. I only know that they became my whole world and that they "saved me" from my very destructive self. For the first time in my life, I truly cared about someone else - and what was best for them - far more than I cared about what I wanted or thought I needed. Being the best mom I could be was my number one priority, and that drove me into a relationship with Jesus like I'd never had before. Because when it came down to it, I realized that Jesus was who I needed most of all. And Jesus was who I wanted to give my children more than anything.
This past November, our oldest son, Jensen, left home and entered the Air Force. For nearly 18 months leading up to his departure for Basic Military Training (BMT), I scoured the internet learning all kinds of things about his new life in the USAF. Gathering everything I could from the official Air Force site, as well as support groups on Facebook, all the information I could find was safely compiled into Word documents. This became my go-to reference material when various questions would arise, and information of particular relevance to Jensen's upcoming BMT experience was printed off for his reading pleasure. I watched numerous YouTube videos and oftentimes sat watching them with Jensen. We would laugh loudly at the intimidating MTI's (Military Training Instructors) yelling at their nervous BMT trainees - and we had hours and hours of conversation. But that part was normal...
Jensen has always been a talker. And he will tell you pretty much anything, even the stuff you really don't want to know. I love that about him. Our bond is strong and there was some concern in the family about how I would fare when Jensen left our home. In fact, Jensen asked me about it one day while we were at Steak 'n Shake together. I remember it because I wanted him to really hear my answer, to know that I was going to be okay, and that I would be more than okay. In a nutshell, I told him something like this, "I love you a lot and I am going to miss you like crazy, but I'll be fine. There is more to me than being your mom, and Noelle's mom, and Lauren's mom. I'm also Linda. I'm a child of God just like you are, and he has plans for me that include more than being your mom. I'm excited about what he's going to do in your life, and in mine."
In other words, I let him know (and affirmed to myself), "I have a life that doesn't include you."
Part of that life involves writing and teaching. This past winter, I taught a 6-week Bible study at our local church - a study that I had spent over a year writing. When it came time to teach it, I was wracked with fear. I felt an overwhelming aversion to opening my mouth and speaking in front of people. This had never happened to me before and only by the Lord's mighty power did I get through it, but not without a HUGE spiritual battle every, single week. Anything good that resulted from my teaching was purely a gracious act of God because all I wanted was for it to be OVER.
When it finally was over, I was determined that the enemy would not win in this area of my life and I signed up for a writer/speaker's conference in North Carolina. I had no way of knowing when I registered for the conference that it would coincide with the exact dates of Jensen's Tech School graduation and homecoming. Say it isn't so!
What's a mom to do?? I've only seen my son twice in the last 9 months. I'm so proud of what he's accomplished. I want to BE HERE when he comes home and be the first one to give him a big "welcome home" hug. That should be ME. I'm the MOM! Surely I am going to have to bail on this conference. Not to mention, my husband now has an out-of-state job and who is going to stay with my girls, and we could certainly use that money for something else...and...and...and you-name-it.
But I have a great husband, and great friends, and a GREAT God. This past week, in a matter of hours, God made it clear to me that I'll live (and Jensen will certainly live), if I'm not the one to welcome him home. So I'm embracing this new life of having an adult child. I'm embracing what God has planned for me, Linda; not just me, Mom. By doing so, I am continuing to lead my kids to Jesus, showing them that he holds my heart. And I'm happy to say that when Jensen arrives home from Tech School, I will be happily surrounded by 29 other women of God in North Carolina who also have a life!
"For I know the plans I have for you," says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope."
And that little boy, and his little brown-haired, brown-eyed (sweet-mannered) sister - who came 14 months later - changed the life of that sinful young girl.
Well, actually Jesus did that. But he used these precious little ones to do it.
This past November, our oldest son, Jensen, left home and entered the Air Force. For nearly 18 months leading up to his departure for Basic Military Training (BMT), I scoured the internet learning all kinds of things about his new life in the USAF. Gathering everything I could from the official Air Force site, as well as support groups on Facebook, all the information I could find was safely compiled into Word documents. This became my go-to reference material when various questions would arise, and information of particular relevance to Jensen's upcoming BMT experience was printed off for his reading pleasure. I watched numerous YouTube videos and oftentimes sat watching them with Jensen. We would laugh loudly at the intimidating MTI's (Military Training Instructors) yelling at their nervous BMT trainees - and we had hours and hours of conversation. But that part was normal...
Jensen has always been a talker. And he will tell you pretty much anything, even the stuff you really don't want to know. I love that about him. Our bond is strong and there was some concern in the family about how I would fare when Jensen left our home. In fact, Jensen asked me about it one day while we were at Steak 'n Shake together. I remember it because I wanted him to really hear my answer, to know that I was going to be okay, and that I would be more than okay. In a nutshell, I told him something like this, "I love you a lot and I am going to miss you like crazy, but I'll be fine. There is more to me than being your mom, and Noelle's mom, and Lauren's mom. I'm also Linda. I'm a child of God just like you are, and he has plans for me that include more than being your mom. I'm excited about what he's going to do in your life, and in mine."
In other words, I let him know (and affirmed to myself), "I have a life that doesn't include you."
Part of that life involves writing and teaching. This past winter, I taught a 6-week Bible study at our local church - a study that I had spent over a year writing. When it came time to teach it, I was wracked with fear. I felt an overwhelming aversion to opening my mouth and speaking in front of people. This had never happened to me before and only by the Lord's mighty power did I get through it, but not without a HUGE spiritual battle every, single week. Anything good that resulted from my teaching was purely a gracious act of God because all I wanted was for it to be OVER.
When it finally was over, I was determined that the enemy would not win in this area of my life and I signed up for a writer/speaker's conference in North Carolina. I had no way of knowing when I registered for the conference that it would coincide with the exact dates of Jensen's Tech School graduation and homecoming. Say it isn't so!
What's a mom to do?? I've only seen my son twice in the last 9 months. I'm so proud of what he's accomplished. I want to BE HERE when he comes home and be the first one to give him a big "welcome home" hug. That should be ME. I'm the MOM! Surely I am going to have to bail on this conference. Not to mention, my husband now has an out-of-state job and who is going to stay with my girls, and we could certainly use that money for something else...and...and...and you-name-it.
But I have a great husband, and great friends, and a GREAT God. This past week, in a matter of hours, God made it clear to me that I'll live (and Jensen will certainly live), if I'm not the one to welcome him home. So I'm embracing this new life of having an adult child. I'm embracing what God has planned for me, Linda; not just me, Mom. By doing so, I am continuing to lead my kids to Jesus, showing them that he holds my heart. And I'm happy to say that when Jensen arrives home from Tech School, I will be happily surrounded by 29 other women of God in North Carolina who also have a life!
"For I know the plans I have for you," says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope."
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